At 67, is it normal?

HooRU

I’m turning 67 and I’ve been pondering. I’m still IN LOVE with my girl, how is that possible? I still get a heart thump for her.

Not bragging as this is not something for bragging, it’s just that maybe I’m too filled with notions of romance or something?

We’re both old and worn out, but I still see her as she was when we met, the shockingly cute girl who blew me away.

takeahike

HooRU

Not the least bit unusual. I’m 72. I would never cheat but I can’t stop thinking about my GF now of 29 years or about any of them from the past. They’re all still 18 to me.

“I’ve looked on a lot of women with lust. I’ve committed adultery in my heart many times. This is something that God recognizes I will do–and I have done it–and God forgives me for it.” – Jimmy Carter

HooRU

Then there is the phrase “Water, water everywhere, but not a drop to drink”. Old men can’t do what young men do, but our heart is there still.

I see all these old men chasing young women and I think, pfft, get a real woman.

HooRU

My wife tells me I’m still handsome, but we’re both aging. With women, they can fix themselves up nice. Men dyeing beards seems kinda funny to me. I see some aging rock stars and I’m like, oh c’mon dude!

Somewhat-Reticent

You’re blessed.
Is it normal? It’s within the range, but so is a lot else.

egeezer

I believe it was Goethe who was on his deathbed when a woman came into his room. He attempted to stand as was his custom, but was told he didn’t have to. His response was “The sense of humanity has not yet left me”.

Just because a person ages or becomes infirmed does not mean a loss of humanity is inevitable.

Donoreo

If she is the one, it is normal.

HooRU

Donoreo Yes, she is very much the one. I have to reassure her that I have no room for others, especially not my Ex. I care about my Ex’s welfare, but I no longer carry any feelings towards her. My girl has been my one and only for decades, she’s full of grace.

urbanriot

HooRU

I’m still IN LOVE with my girl, how is that possible?

Sometimes I wonder about this since my wife and I can be in the same house for days and at best pass each other once or twice during the day while each of us is working on some kind of project then one of us crashing in bed earlier or later than the other, waking earlier or later than the other…

Then I go away on some kind of job for a period of time and absence makes the heart grow fonder as they say, you realize how much you miss the other person and then we get back together and it’s like honeymoon season again.

We also do a lot of stuff together when we have free time which keeps the relationship healthy and happy so yea, it’s possible to keep that love alive. That and my wife is still a looker when she wants to be.

HooRU

Neither of us are lookers, but we used to be. She was smoking hot but didn’t believe it. I still see the parts of that girl, but it’s her great attitude that I hold dear most.

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HooRU

Do I love you?
For twenty-five years I’ve washed your clothes
Cooked your meals, cleaned your house
given you children, milked the cow
after twenty-five years, why talk about love right now?

Fiddler on the Roof.

HooRU

Love is an emotion, but it’s also a decision, a behavior, an idea, a stance, and an act. Some people fall out of love, but emotion is only part of it, belief is a more important part. If you treat each other in good faith and in a nurturing manner, love can blossom and rebolosom.

Make no mistake of illusion: My spouse can be a PITA and she can stress me out since I worry about her. But she has my heart.

takeahike

From The Best Years of Our Lives (1946) Watch here with ads.

[after Peggy tells her parents that they never had any trouble in their relationship]
Milly Stephenson: “We never had any trouble?” How many times have I told you I hated you and believed it in my heart? How many times have you said you were sick and tired of me; that we were all washed up? How many times have we had to fall in love all over again?

HooRU

Meeting my wife was something like the movie South Pacific. Except I live.